True Wisdom
"The only true wisdom is knowing that you know nothing."
— Socrates
If you think you know your pain, think again.
Learning is about letting go of our ego and challenging what we believe we know. It is about growing our knowledge and understanding the wide perspectives of different approaches. Learning is eternal and continuous.
In relation to the healing journey, we often think we understand another person by how they impacted us, but in reality, we don't know the pain and experiences that caused them to act a certain way. As for our own struggles, we think we grasp the core scope of our pain, but this understanding can be influenced by defensive habits, such as, 'faking it until we makes it'.
Facing the Hard Truth
If you are using a strategy like “faking it,” ensure you set a clear, time-bound boundary for that phase. That strategy is meant to be a bridge, not a permanent home. There comes a point in time where we must stop pretending, face reality, and accept the hard truth—that moment marks true progress.
No one is meant to remain stuck where they are. There is always a way out, and this depends entirely on our willingness to challenge ourselves in seeking that way out. This can be as simple as asking for help.
If you remain stuck, ask yourself these courageous questions:
What is stopping me from getting unstuck?
Why am I allowing myself to be treated in such ways?
Why am I allowing myself to continue to feel such emotions?
What is truly causing me to feel this way?
Approach your situation with the true wisdom of Socrates: Listen to it and understand it from a nonjudgmental mind, accepting it for what it is—as if you truly know nothing about it.
Your Pain vs. Inherited Baggage
It is vital to distinguish between two types of pain:
Inherited Pain: Our pains and struggles sometimes may not even be ours; they may have been trauma and baggage passed on to us from others. If this is the case, why are you carrying on pains that aren't yours? Learn to let go of what isn't yours today.
Personal Pain: If the trauma and baggage is yours, embrace it. Allow it to speak to you and listen to what it has to say. Learn from it, make peace with it., and then release it.
Release it. You're no longer defined by that phase in your life. It doesn't have any power over you, and it doesn't define who you are.
The Acknowledgement of Courage
If you really don't know what's wrong, that's ok. You don't need to have it figured out. A little acknowledgement is all that it takes to start.
It takes a courageous person to acknowledge and surrender to not knowing, and it takes an even braver person to seek help because they at least acknowledge that quiet cry for healing.
Healing is a must for maintaining a balanced well-being and lifestyle. Please reach out for help—even if you only think you may need it. It may not simply be your mind speaking, but your inner self is crying out for the care it deserves.
