The Law of Attraction
The idea of the law of attraction is we create our own reality. What we focus on—what we truly believe will happen—is what we will draw into our life.
While the law of attraction is often pitched as an immediate solution, for those on a healing journey, it is a tool that requires conscious healing first. The energy of your thoughts manifests your experiences using three core principles, but we must first acknowledge where our deepest beliefs are actually stored.
The Subconscious Override
The challenge for those on a healing journey is that the conscious mind (where we practice affirmations) is estimated to be only 5% of our brain’s activity. The subconscious mind (where trauma and implicit memory live) is the powerful 95% that holds our core beliefs about safety and self-worth.
If your conscious thought is “I deserve love,” but your subconscious, trauma-informed belief is “I am not safe,” the subconscious will override your affirmation every time. This explains why positive thinking alone often fails: your core belief is the true magnet.
The goal, therefore, is not to ignore negative thoughts, but to heal the trauma response so that the deepest level of your being—your subconscious—is aligned with your positive desires.
Core Principles of Attraction
The energy of our thoughts manifests our experiences through these principles:
1. Like Attracts Like
Similar things are attracted to one another. This means that people tend to attract people who are similar to them. It also suggests that people's thoughts tend to attract similar results. Negative thinking is to attract negative experiences, while positive thinking is to produce desirable experiences.
2. The Power of Space
Removing negative things from our life can make space for more positive things to take that place.
3. The Present Moment is Key
The past, present and future is NOW: There are always things we can do to improve the current moment. Rather than feeling dread or unhappiness, we should focus our energy on finding ways to make the current moment the best and safest that it can be.
Practices for Subconscious Reprogramming
Gratitude
Direct the nervous system to present-moment safety. When you feel gratitude, your body releases calming hormones, proving that ‘I am safe now.”
Visualization
Creates a blueprint of success in the subconscious mind. By vividly imagining your goal, you train your brain to recognize opportunities to achieve it.
Positive Affirmations
When used consistently, these help re-pattern negative self-talk. They are most effective when paired with somatic anchor (e.g., placing a hand on your heart) to ground the feeling in the body.
Identifying Negative Thinking
Teaches you to separate the thought from the feeling. You learn to observe limiting beliefs (“I am not good enough”) without letting them dictate your nervous system state or actions.
The Law of Attraction is not magic; it is a discipline. It helps motivate us to keep working towards our goals, but it is ultimately the product of the inner work you do to create a foundation of safety and self-worth.
