The Root of Trauma and Illnesses: Where Broken Promises Meet Internalization—An Unspoken Truth
Every human being is born into a state of innate wholeness. We arrive with a "Divine Spark," carrying an inherent worth that requires no external proof. We are born expecting to be loved, protected, and seen, because—logically—that is what a soul of such value deserves.
Trauma and chronic illness often begin when that logic is violated.
The Anatomy of the Broken Promise
We often view trauma as a singular event, but its root is more frequently found in broken promises. These are not always spoken contracts; they are the fundamental expectations we hold when we enter relationships with parents, peers, or partners. We expect them to honor our wholeness.
When we experience neglect, it is rarely a deliberate act of malice. Often, it is simply a rebalancing of priorities on their part. However, to the person on the receiving end, the result is the same: a promise has been breached.
The Sting: A single instance of neglect or a broken promise causes a "sting." If we possess a strong enough perspective, we can see the mechanics of the situation and maintain our inner authority.
The Cut: When promises are broken repeatedly, or foundational promises of safety are ignored, the sting becomes a "cut." These cuts begin to undermine our structural integrity.
The Intersection: Internalization
The most critical point in the development of trauma-related illness is internalization. This is the unspoken truth: we eventually stop blaming the world for the broken promises and start believing we were never worthy of the promises to begin with.
When the world fails to prioritize us, we eventually make a silent, internal promise to never expect priority again. We begin to neglect our own "Divine Spark" just to survive the disappointment. This internal dissonance—knowing we are whole but living as if we are not—is where the seeds of illness take root. The body begins to manifest the stress of living a life that contradicts its innate value.
Reclaiming the Perspective
The path to healing is not about "fixing" a broken self, you were never broken, but about recognizing the "rebalancing" that happened without your conscious consent. It is about understanding that the "neglect" was a reflection of the other person’s limitations, not a measurement of your worth.
By shifting perspective, we can stop the "sting" from becoming a "cut."
Awareness: Recognize where you have started breaking promises to yourself (neglecting your health, your peace, or your boundaries) as a way to cope with the broken promises of others.
The Restored Contract: Healing requires a return to the original contract of wholeness. It is an active commitment to stop the internal neglect and begin honoring the "Divine Spark" once more.
When we stop internalizing the failures of others, we regain our power. We move from a state of survival—constantly bracing for the next broken promise—into a state of true living, where our foundation is built on the promises we keep to ourselves.
The Honest Root Truth to Your Struggles Today?
We often spend years cataloging the promises others broke for us. We remember the neglect, the shifts in priority, and the moments we were left behind. We use those memories to explain our pain, our illness, and our lack of peace.
But if you want to find the root of the struggle you are facing today, you have to look closer to home.
You tell us—or better yet, look in the mirror and tell yourself:
What broken promises are you currently making for yourself?
Are you promising yourself rest, but delivering exhaustion?
Are you promising yourself boundaries, but delivering "yes" to everyone else?
Are you promising yourself you are worthy of the "your greatest truth," but living every day like you belong in the valley of survival?
The world may have started the cycle of broken promises, but we are the ones who keep it spinning when we internalize that neglect. When you break a promise to yourself, you are telling your own "Divine Spark" that it is no longer a priority. That is where the "cut" becomes a permanent wound.
The struggle you feel today is often the tension between the Whole Self you were born to be and the Broken Promises you are currently living out. You cannot wait for the people who broke the original contract to come back and fix it. They can't and they more than likely won't. In fact, the first person to break your promises is you. You allowed yourself to experience mistreatment in the first place.
The only way to stop the internal dissonance is to become the person who finally keeps their word—to themselves (consciously and subconsciously).
